A letter to Angela,
From the time Ange was born her life was a challenge. Shortly after she was born she began to have seizures which caused her to have a speech impediment and slower developing motor skills as a child. I loved engaging in conversations with her just to hear Ange’s “own” vocabulary. Ange began to accept and overcome the challenges she faced and was better for it.
When Ange learned to walk, she quickly began to run everywhere she went. My little Ange was a firecracker, to say the least. Soon Ange had a purpose to run. Most times it was to get away from her mama when she was in trouble. Ange was fast like the wind and no one could catch her. My mom used to sit at the kitchen table, shake her head, and put her hands in the air and say, “she is such pepper-ass.”
Ange’s father Jack came into their life like a knight riding on a white horse. When he came into our lives his focus was on loving the girls. He loved Ange and all of his daughters with his whole heart - protecting and supporting them through each stage of their lives. Ange’s older sister, Tess, assumed the role of her surrogate mother. She cared for her like Ange was her daughter. Soon after, Ange’s little sister, Tootie, came into their life and brought the family to full circle, giving Ange someone to pick on. Tess, Ange, and Tootie always supported each other and were always there for each other through thick and thin. Simply stated Tootie said, “we will forever be three.” Jack and I soon realized Ange was the tomboy of our little family and Jack took special attention to this. Whether we were building something or remodeling another thing, she was out there with a hammer pounding nails in next to him. Ange was always very creative, she always had many “imbenshuns,” yes, imbenshuns, not inventions.
When Ange turned 15, I had to learn how to share her. I remember a cute surfer boy walking through our front door. The way she looked at him was unlike the way she had looked at any other man. By the time Ange and Mark had been together just six months I knew this love was permanent. God paired the two of them together for a reason. Mark’s love for Ange from the start was a blessing to Jack and me. We knew Mark loved her with all his heart and soul. I knew Mark would protect and care for her forever.
My proudest moment of Ange was to watch her excel at school. Everything she did was amazing to me. Watching her graduate was a job well done - an amazing feat of perseverance. Her determination was phenomenal.
After Mark & Ange got married, Deanna was born. Ange was so excited! Deanna was Ange’s beautiful little dress up doll. I don’t think she wore the same outfit twice, but every outfit Ange put on Deanna complimented her personality. It didn’t take long for Ange and Mark to realize Deanna was Daddy’s little girl too.
Just a few short years later Ange had Austin. She was excited to share her boy interests. Her tomboy personality was expressed through their shared love for engines, fast cars, and sports.
She and Mark loved Deanna and Austin, watching them both play sports and growing with them through their childhood.
Ange also had plenty of fur babies. Anyone who would see her with Brutus, Daisy, Lucky, Flo, and Breezy - to name a few - would attest to the fact that she loved them like her children. Breezy was one of the strongest medicines for Ange while fighting this horrible disease.
Ange also had plenty of friends throughout her life. Time and time again Ange was loyal and loving to them all until the very end.
When Ange received the news of having melanoma, she was devastated. Soon after, she learned Deanna was pregnant with Paul. The day Deanna had Paul, Ange would not leave Deanna’s side. Ange cried, “I can’t stand to see my daughter suffer, I want to take her pain away.” As soon as she had seen Paul’s beautiful face her worry and fear had disappeared. This little gift from God allowed her to reassess the fight she was about to endure. She had the privilege to be in Paul’s life for three years. Unfortunately, she did not have that time limit with Patrick and it broke Deanna’s heart. A couple days ago Deanna found a picture of her mom holding Patrick in her mom’s phone and she was in disbelief and filled with joy.
Even though Ange is no longer here in earthly form, she will always be looking over her husband Mark, and her children Deanna and Austin - watching Austin continue to grow as an adult and eventually starting his own family; and watching over her grand babies Paul and Patrick - smiling with pride knowing that Deanna is such an excellent mother.
You’ll always be in our hearts, Ange. We’re not saying goodbye, we are saying see you later. We love you with all of our hearts.
Ange is survived by her husband, Mark Haveman; children Deanna (Chris) and Austin (Breanna); grandchildren Paul and Patrick; parents Jack and Chris Empie; father in-law, Alvin Haveman; siblings, Tess (Dann) Carins and Jackie/Tootie (Robb) Gipe; in-laws Sue Sweeney, Bruce (Jodi) Haveman, and Diane (Mike) Wolf; many nieces and nephews; and lots of loving family and friends.
Funeral services will be held at 12 p.m. on Monday, August 26, 2019 at Kubiak-Cook Funeral Home - Dorr Chapel, 4330 18th St., Dorr, MI 49323, with visitation one hour prior to the service. Angela will be laid to rest at Hooker Cemetery. If you would like to send flowers, the family is requesting sunflowers, Angela’s favorite flower. Contributions in memory of Angela may be made to Angela’s Go Fund Me page or to Melanoma Research. The family welcomes memories and messages in their guest book online at www.kubiakcook.com.
Angela's Go Fund Me page